There are thousands upon thousands of articles on how to find “The One”. Books, group discussions, dating websites, love coaches, etc, etc. Everyone has their own recipe on how, where and when you will find your soul mate. Me being the hopeless romantic that I am, lets just say I probably have read or tried about all of them. I believed for a very long time that I would never find that person because I never had my shit together. Something with me was always off. The books and articles told me I needed to be “On Point” in order to find a man. I have never been on point. My life has always been a little off. I tried to get things in order but I was never able to pull it together. I kept telling myself that when I finally had everything lined up perfectly..He would come.
Little did I know, it doesn’t work that way. When someone loves you. They accept you completely, shattered mess of a life and all. There is no perfect timing, the stars will never line up perfectly, you might not ever truly GET IT TOGETHER. I remember having a conversation with a good male friend of mine. We were up on the phone in the wee hours of the morning. He was up with me, listening to me cry as I went through disappointing heart break. I asked him what I could do or say to help me find the right man. He gave me the best advice ever in two words, “Be yourself”.
There is no antidote, there is no perfect time, none of us will ever be impeccable. When the love is real that person will rise up embrace and except all of your imperfections. He will stay when you are frustrated and cant seem to explain to him why. He will kiss you on the forehead when you roll over in the middle of the night and your breath smells the pits of hell. He will stay even when you attempt to chase him away because you have gotten so use to all the others giving up on you.
Love is the highest form of understanding. The person who loves you will want all of you, the good, the bad and the ugly. There is no “Recipe, no secret serum, no antidote”.
To find true love the only thing you will ever have to do is be you…